What is it in our life that we hold onto tightly, that stops us from achieving our inner peace and success?
An Attachment is what we have been trained to believe.
Attachment means holding onto things dearly as if you cannot live without them or as if your happiness and existence depend upon them. These are mental bonds you develop with things and objects, places and people, we want or need or long for circumstances to be a certain way, and you believe they are important for you and your happiness. They are invisible strings that tie you to the external world.
The single most pronounced attachment for most of us in our lives is the attachment to being right! to win at all costs and to be superior to others.
When you attached to things, they take control of your life, your body, mind and senses and define your life, personality and destiny. They limit your freedom and awareness. We end up creating a huge amount of stress in our lives, because we hang on to beliefs that keep us striving for more, because the ego stubbornly refuses to believe we don’t need something. If these outer things change, break and disappear, and if we continue to cling to them, we then end up on an emotional roller coaster.
Recognizing what physical things we cling to and letting go of reliance on it brings the gift of freedom and serenity. When the mind clings to the divine within us the outer things lose their pull over us and it becomes possible to put things into perspective and find that inner peace.
Just recently, I realised that some of my own battles, have been the need to be right with my husband, to believe and behave as I do, which in reality seems very absurd.
It was not until I felt completely exhausted and a feeling of not wanting to battle anymore that I could clearly see how attached I had become to me needing to be right. My body was also showing tight restrictions and trying to bring awareness to me. Yes I it may have been useful or beneficial information, however in this case and all relationships, if you love someone allow them to choose to be without expectations or attachments from you. Loving a person for what they are, not what you think they should be. This is an open mind free of attachments.
To release our attachments that no longer serve us we have to make a shift in our thinking and in how we view ourselves.
I really like the way Dr Wayne Dyer explains how we can do this,
The Key he says is to have a mind that is open to everything, and a mind that is attached to nothing.
This may sound easy, but think about how we have been conditioned from our culture, our environment, the family we were born in or live with.
I ask that you explore having an open mind, allowing for you to explore & grow.
Open your mind to all possibilities wether you believe possible or not.
A closed mind stops our creativity. It would be impossible for us to progress in life if we always did things the same way we always have.
You cannot possible expect things to change with the same mindset that created it.
Our ability to participate in true miracles happens when we open our mind to our limitless potential. Understand that what you think about expands, if your thoughts are focused on doubt and you have a closed mind, you will see evidence of your thinking everywhere you are.
Therefore if we think peaceful thoughts, we feel peaceful and this becomes that what you bring to your life situation.
Another way to put this if you convinced that you can’t be wealthy, professional athlete, or whatever you will act upon, that inner conviction that prevents you from manifesting what you really like. All you get from your efforts is being RIGHT. With the need to be right, you’re attached to your conditioned reflex of the way things are and always have been, and assume they always will be.
When we detach from the outcome, you are at peace, and it brings about the most profound sense of care, compassion and freedom.
Expectations then no longer rule your life.
An open mind to everything means being peaceful, and in love with life. Visualising yourself as capable of doing anything that you can create in your mind and heart.
Refuse to allow yourself to have low expectations.
Never make happiness or success dependant on an attachment to any thing, any place, and particularly any person.
Have an open mind that is open to everything but attached to Nothing.
Article helped from Dr Wayne Dyer,
Thank you for showing up when I needed to see more clearly.
When you understand the true meaning of non-attachment:
• Expectations no longer rule your life.
• Emotions arise, but you have space. You have perspective.
• Your Emotions don’t catch and torment you every time.
• You relate to the world as it is rather than to your concepts about it, which never bring lasting happiness.
• You have clarity within your mind so you’re able to see through to the truth of things.
• You’re not bothered by much, but that doesn’t mean you tolerate harmful behavior.
• The problems of this world evoke compassion rather than anger.
• You don’t chase after happiness. You just enjoy it when it’s present, and release it when it dissolves.
• You’re able to allow life to unfold without needing to control everything.
• You don’t stop loving. You love even more.
• Your heart only grows bigger and bigger and bigger, when you see all the unnecessary suffering in this world.
• You feel naturally compelled to help, but you’re not attached to the outcome.
The sense of spaciousness and freedom you feel bring a genuine contentment that can never be found in temporary experiences.